<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"><channel><atom:link href="http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;Type=RSS20" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><title>EQ</title><description>Building emotional intelligence and leadership success</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/</link><lastBuildDate>Thu, 17 May 2012 23:55:46 GMT</lastBuildDate><docs>http://backend.userland.com/rss</docs><generator>RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/</generator><item><title>What's the No. 1 Skill Children Need to Succeed?  </title><description>By Martyn Newman, PhD&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;After you&amp;rsquo;ve told your children that you love them and they must
never doubt the value of their lives, what&amp;rsquo;s the number one skill they
need to succeed? Resilience. The ability to bounce back from setback,
heartbreak, injustice, and rise to life&amp;rsquo;s opportunities is quite simply
the one skill that every parent should teach their children.&lt;img alt="" style="border: 0pt none; float: right;" src="http://www.rochemartin.com/images/dylan superhero.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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I&amp;rsquo;ve just finished watching my 25 years old son, Dylan win his first
professional kick-boxing fight. Despite the win, let me tell you
watching someone you love go three rounds in the school of hard knocks
is never easy. By nature Dylan is a gentle soul, but also a highly
trained and skillful athlete. But in the world of martial arts it takes
more than skill to succeed, it takes mental toughness to shake off the
painful blows and knock downs to bounce back time and time again to stay
in the game and succeed.&lt;br /&gt;
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Dylan has been through some pretty rough periods in his life and he
certainly didn&amp;rsquo;t get the genes for getting up off the canvas from his
old man. So, if you think your kids may have been slightly short changed
by inheriting your DNA, don&amp;rsquo;t worry, genes are not destiny.&lt;br /&gt;
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If you follow a few simple rules for creating the right cultural
conditions that celebrates resilience, you can tip the scales in the
right direction even if you&amp;rsquo;re not exactly Mohamed Ali. And, of course,
the same rules also work for building cultures of resilient people in
your business. As the philosopher, Robert Fulghum said, &amp;lsquo;all I really
need to know, I learned in Kindergarten.&amp;rsquo; Most of what we need to know
about how to live and what to do we learn early; this is especially true
of leadership skills.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/eq/7-Rules-to-Bullet-Proof-Your-Kids"&gt;&amp;nbsp;Read the full article here&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;RocheMartin invites you to join top HR Directors from around the globe at the 2012 Leadership &amp;amp; Emotional Intelligence Summit to be held in London on 9 March 2012.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div&gt;Headlining the Summit will be Dr Paul Ekman one of the world's most recognized psychologists whose pioneering work on understanding emotions has been popularized via the international hit TV series "Lie To Me" on Fox TV.
The Summit also features our very own Dr Martyn Newman, recognized as a world expert on emotional intelligence and leadership and author of the international best selling book 'Emotional Capitalists &amp;ndash; The New Leaders'.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;Here's why you need to be there:&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&amp;nbsp;* Hear inspirational keynotes from world authorities&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&amp;nbsp;* Develop successful leadership behaviours&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&amp;nbsp;* Test drive the latest EQ tools &amp;amp; technologies&amp;nbsp;
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&lt;div&gt;At just &amp;pound;195, RocheMartin blog readers can benefit from the &amp;lsquo;early bird&amp;rsquo; discount on the &amp;pound;250 ticket price if booked before January 15th.  For more information and to register to attend, please visit the website at &lt;a href="www.eqsummit.com"&gt;www.eqsummit.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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of Derby Corporate,The Finesse Collection and High Growth Training we
are delighted to be able to host this prestigious event on Monday 14th
November in the wonderful setting of Opulence Restaurant within the
Cathedral Quarter Hotel.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;"&gt;&lt;span&gt;Dr Martyn Newman
the author of the best selling &amp;nbsp;book "Emotional Capitalists" will be
delivering a 90 minute key note speech entitled Inspiring Leadership.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;span style="color: #1f497d;"&gt;People are attracted to psychology because they want to understand more about how people &amp;ndash; including themselves - tick.&lt;/span&gt; But knowing and doing aren&amp;rsquo;t the same thing. Bringing emotional intelligence to the challenges of the workplace is not simply about understanding the world of work but knowing how to change it. And changing the world of work means having the right tools to do the job.
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Tools such as the &lt;a href="/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;Emotional Capital Report (ECR)&lt;/a&gt; gives you the power to build a high performance culture.
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Become the authority on Emotional Intelligence in your workplace. Get certified in the international benchmark on emotional intelligence and leadership &amp;ndash; the ECR.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;Have you been in a similar situation before? If you were on the receiving end how did it impact on you? Is this a productive response? Or is there a better way to deal with this situation?&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;I saw this very scenario not so long ago, understandably the Manager was upset, I&amp;rsquo;m sure we all know that feeling of losing a phone, there is nothing worse. This is the kind of day-to-day reaction that we can sometimes find ourselves delivering or encountering &amp;ndash; what is important to look at though is the greater affect on the rest of the team. The store was about to go into it&amp;rsquo;s rush period, and the Manager was upset and yelling at everyone, everyone else then noticeably became upset, lost focus and their ability to deliver great customer service.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;So is there an alternative response or a better way of dealing with this situation? Surely it is an emotional reaction that we can&amp;rsquo;t necessarily control?&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;This scenario relates to our self-control, a competency in Emotional Intelligence (EQ) that our Emotional Capital Report (ECR) measures for. Self-control encompasses calmness, a rational mind and discipline. When self-control is low in terms of emotional intelligence it can mean that we get emotional in stressful situations, find it difficult to control anxiety and can often act impulsive and unpredictably; consequently you may end up putting yourself and others under undue pressure, which contributes to a stressful working environment.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;As talked about earlier in the previous blog piece, emotional responses are learnt and can become habitual responses; however by acknowledging this and giving yourself space to look at the situation, we can re-learn more productive &amp;lsquo;emotional habits&amp;rsquo;.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;What are some strategies you can employ to help develop your self-control?&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&amp;bull;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;Examine negative &amp;lsquo;self-talk&amp;rsquo; that drives your emotional reactions in stressful situations.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&amp;bull;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;Respond, rather than react to difficult situations by introducing a pause before speaking and acting impulsively.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&amp;bull;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;Take time to pause and give adequate thought to the impact of your words and actions on others.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;These are just a few examples, but as you can see, to develop our EQ it can really be a matter of taking simple practical actions. The first step is to acknowledge this, benchmark your EQ and then work on practical coaching strategies.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;And the outcome of the above scenario?...&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;br /&gt;
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The Manager found her phone, it was where she had left it (on a different counter), and she ended up looking and feeling quite silly about the whole situation. So save yourself the frustrations and embarrassment of going through these motions, and make an active step towards your self-development today!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://rochemartin.businesscatalyst.com/contact-us.html"&gt;For more information you can contact our team&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://rochemartin.businesscatalyst.com/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;Or check out the ECR for yourself&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;1.) &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk down the street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I fall in.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I am lost&amp;hellip; I am hopeless&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It isn&amp;rsquo;t my fault.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It takes forever to find a way out.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;2.) &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk down the same street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I pretend I don&amp;rsquo;t see it.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I fall in again.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I can&amp;rsquo;t believe I&amp;rsquo;m in the same place.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;But it isn&amp;rsquo;t my fault.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It still takes a long time to get out.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;3.)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk down the same street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I see it is there.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I still fall in&amp;hellip; it&amp;rsquo;s a habit&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;My eyes are open&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I know where I am&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It is &lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;my&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt; fault.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I get out immediately.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;4.) &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk down the same street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk around it.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;5.) &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I walk down another street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'times new roman'; min-height: 15px;"&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'times new roman'; min-height: 15px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Just like a physical observable habit, emotional reactions and responses are learnt and programmed over time, like walking down the same path day after day. Eventually the path becomes worn and familiar; before you know it you are often at the end before you even realize what has happened. This is exactly what happens in our brain; emotional habits and reactions form strong neural pathways, which in turn reinforces particular behaviors.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;In terms of emotional or day-to-day interactions, have you ever found yourself in a similar scenario or conflict? Feeling powerless, and or faultless ~ poetically speaking standing at the bottom of a hole wondering why this keeps happening?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Unlike physical habits, often our emotional habits are less obvious and even seemingly erratic; so how can we ever really be in control of a situation, move forward and excel in business and leadership if we are unaware of what part emotions play in our interactions and behaviors?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Emotions shape our behavior, relationships and decisions; and more importantly determine whether or not people will work well for you, buy from you, employ you and enter into business with you. As Jack Welch puts it &amp;lsquo;A leader&amp;rsquo;s intelligence has to have a strong emotional component.&amp;rsquo;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Research informs us that to change a behavior is more effective when both the emotional brain &amp;amp; rational brain are engaged, as decisions are made on emotions and justified by logic. People with strong EQ have a good dialogue happening between their emotional and rational brain.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;The good news is it&amp;rsquo;s not too late! You are not destined to keep &amp;lsquo;walking down the same street and ending up in the same hole&amp;rsquo; or predicament. By acknowledging the role that emotions play in our experiences, we can begin to observe patterns and move towards creating new pathways to change our behavior.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;This is where the &lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;ECR&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/Online-EQ-Training"&gt;SmartCoach&lt;/a&gt; come in.&amp;nbsp; The ECR produces a clear succinct report, which highlights our strengths and areas for improvement based around 10 core competencies for emotional intelligence in leadership. By focusing on these specific competencies it gives us a platform to review and acknowledge our current EQ. This platform coupled with SmartCoach is the most effective way to really move towards changing our behavior, as SmartCoach offers accessible personal coaching insights and strategies to help form these new lasting pathways through practice and repetition.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;So make a decision today to stop falling down that hole, and let us help you find another street to walk down!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal cambria; min-height: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=126648&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fwww.rochemartin.com%252f_blog%252fEQ%252fpost%252fDo_you_know_your_emotional_Habits%252f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.rochemartin.com/_blog/EQ/post/Do_you_know_your_emotional_Habits/</guid><pubDate>Wed, 20 Jul 2011 14:49:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Digby-Morgan has a new Consulting Psychologist</title><description>&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;Digby Morgan is an international leader in HR recruitment. Extremely well respected with a reputation for excellence, quality in service and sector knowledge, the company&amp;lsquo;s position as a brand leader has won it a series of industry awards and accolades over the years.&lt;br /&gt;
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They have recently invited our very own Dr. Martyn to be their Consulting Psychologist.&lt;br /&gt;
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</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=126412&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fwww.rochemartin.com%252f_blog%252fEQ%252fpost%252fDigby-Morgan_invites_Dr_Martyn_Newman_to_be_their_Consulting_Psychologist%252f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.rochemartin.com/_blog/EQ/post/Digby-Morgan_invites_Dr_Martyn_Newman_to_be_their_Consulting_Psychologist/</guid><pubDate>Mon, 18 Jul 2011 15:57:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>My EQ Experience</title><description>&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;"How is this happening again?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I swear I&amp;rsquo;ve been here before,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;This is the same argument, scenario, confrontation,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It&amp;rsquo;s all the same, though the setting &amp;amp; characters have changed.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;It can&amp;rsquo;t be my fault; they&amp;rsquo;re in the wrong,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I can&amp;rsquo;t control how they react.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;But there must be a reason&amp;hellip;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;A reason this keeps occurring.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;What can I possibly change?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;I can&amp;rsquo;t control the uncontrollable &amp;ndash;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;People, circumstances, dilemmas&amp;hellip;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;So what can I control?"&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;This is where I found myself not so long ago. I had been working and managing in hospitality for almost 8 years, I had achieved some great things, and moved up steadily in my career. However there were a couple of scenarios that seemed to be reoccurring themes for me. Certain confrontations and arguments seemed to be repeated over the course of a few years in different environments.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;At first, young and na&amp;iuml;ve I found it hard and refused to believe that this possibly had anything to do with me, maybe it was just a regular issue in hospitality that I had to face being a senior female manager in a male dominated industry (It is always easier to blame others for pitfalls than look at ourselves).&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There have been certain scenarios that how the other party has spoken me to is inexcusable; HOWEVER, as I said there was a reoccurring theme and I seemed to be the common denominator&amp;hellip; There had to be something I could learn or change about these interactions. As I said in the dialogue above, I cannot control the uncontrollable &amp;ndash; particularly how other people respond to me, BUT I can control how I interact and approach people.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;There was something about the way I was approaching all of these situations that was creating the same outcome time and time again. Einstein&amp;rsquo;s definition of insanity is: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results - This is exactly what I was doing!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;So where to from there? Well first I had to acknowledge my part in these interactions, look at my past interactions and reflect on them with space from the heat of the moment and then&amp;hellip; look to make a change.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Easier said than done some may say. Well to me, this is where my interest in emotional intelligence has stemmed from, as I believe there has to be something more to these interactions, something more we can learn and master next time around - for what is experience if we learn nothing from it? Experience gives us the foundation; emotional intelligence gives us the insight to build on that foundation.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: arial;"&gt;Acknowledging and learning more about emotional intelligence and how it plays a major role in our interactions was like turning on a light in a room for me, then going through my Emotional Capital Report (ECR) was like focusing a laser beam on this new awareness. It got to the core of my strengths and areas for improvement and made complete sense of all my interactions (good and bad) in regards to management and leadership. In all my years of management this has been my most valuable lesson in regards to leadership, and I only wish that I had learnt more about it years ago. I truly believe that this is not only valuable, but also necessary in every field, and look forward to my EQ journey.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Click here to find out more and start your own EQ journey&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal helvetica;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 13px;"&gt;We are very excited to announce that our MD Martyn Newman is currently on retreat with Dr Paul Eckman and Dr Alan B Wallace in the mountains of Thailand studying how leaders can create emotional balance to sustain their performance for the longterm. Dr Eckman - a world-renowned expert in emotional research &amp;amp; non-verbal communication and Dr Wallace - one of the most prolific writers and translators of Tibetan Buddhism in the West. Interestingly Martyn's workshop on creating Emotional Balance - sustaining Leadership for the Longterm is one of the most requested worships by our blue-chip clients. We look forward to the fresh new insights Martyn will have to share after this powerful 5 week workshop.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=124525&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fwww.rochemartin.com%252f_blog%252fEQ%252fpost%252fCultivating_Emotional_Balance%252f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.rochemartin.com/_blog/EQ/post/Cultivating_Emotional_Balance/</guid><pubDate>Wed, 29 Jun 2011 10:53:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Future of Work Conference at the Monaco Grand Prix</title><description>During the last weekend of May, Randstad Holding held a strategy conference on the Future of Work aboard the clipper ship Stad Amsterdam, which was docked in Monaco. Twelve international chief-level (CEO, CFO, CHRO, etc.) clients and their partners enjoyed a weekend that combined business with pleasure, including a visit to the Monte Carlo Grand Prix and our AT&amp;amp;T Williams F1 team.&lt;br /&gt;
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The aim of the strategy conference was to share HR knowledge and discuss future trends in the workplace. Ben Noteboom and Brian Wilkinson of Randstad hosted the event, and the keynote speaker was our very own Martyn Newman.&lt;br /&gt;
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Martyn led a lively roundtable discussion about trends in the Future of Work and what they mean for future leadership. The session offered numerous reference points that allowed participants to compare their views with those of peers in other businesses. &lt;br /&gt;
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</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=124521&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fwww.rochemartin.com%252f_blog%252fEQ%252fpost%252fFuture_of_Work_Conference_at_the_Monaco_Grand_Prix%252f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.rochemartin.com/_blog/EQ/post/Future_of_Work_Conference_at_the_Monaco_Grand_Prix/</guid><pubDate>Wed, 29 Jun 2011 09:13:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Emotional Intelligence in the Work Place</title><description>&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&amp;ldquo;No doubt emotional intelligence is more rare than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader.&amp;rdquo; Jack Welch&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;So what does emotional intelligence have to do with your work place? Is it relevant in all work places and for all roles or just leaders? Is emotional intelligence something that can be taught or trained? These are the common questions that generally arise when the topic of emotional intelligence comes up.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;So does emotional intelligence have any impact on your workplace and is it relevant for all roles? &lt;em&gt;&amp;ldquo;Research shows convincingly that EQ is more important than IQ in almost every role and many times more important in leaderships roles&amp;rdquo; (Stephen Covey).&lt;/em&gt; We have all at some stage experienced that Manager that just seemed to be an &amp;ldquo;exceptional leader&amp;rdquo;; they lead with passion, integrity and an apparent clarity of decision. But more importantly they ignited in you these attributes. There is no arguing that these skills are invaluable in every workplace; what business owner wouldn&amp;rsquo;t want their team to be more passionate, driven, innovative and stay in the business?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;Until recently these such leaders seemed a rarity, they seemed to possess a skill that you either had or didn&amp;rsquo;t, and the focus was on holding onto these people, rather than developing a whole team of &amp;ldquo;exceptional leaders&amp;rdquo;. Thanks to years of rigorous research and case studies, it seems that these skills - while rare naturally in individuals, can be developed. Martyn Newman gives us more than just theory, he gives us practical tools to develop these skills.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;Newman has distilled his years of research in emotional intelligence relating to leadership into 10 core competencies:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Self-knowing&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Self-confidence&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Self-reliance&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Straightforwardness&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Self-Actualization&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Relationship skills&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Empathy&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Adaptability&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Self-control&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Optimism&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;Lets expand on one to make more sense of it all. &amp;lsquo;Self-knowing&amp;rsquo;, what is the relevance of this in a work place? Self-knowing encompasses emotional awareness, behavioral awareness and non-verbal communications. Typically someone who is low on self-knowing is often not good at recognizing or verbalizing their own emotions and is generally unaware of their impact of behavior on others. Now imagine this person as a manager in a work place, undoubtedly you have encountered them before, maybe they tend to &amp;lsquo;act out&amp;rsquo; emotional experiences and then are surprised by your reactions; or perhaps you have come across someone who you found &amp;lsquo;hard to read&amp;rsquo;, as they kept their emotions &amp;amp; thoughts close to their chest. Both of these examples can lead to a lack of trust in the team and a general disengagement to their leadership, which is detrimental to all relationships and the working environment.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;So where to from here? Well the Emotional Capital Report (ECR) focuses on these clear, tangible competencies and highlights an individual&amp;rsquo;s strengths and areas for improvement in leadership, and also gives simple coaching strategies to help develop these skills. For example, with the above illustration of self-knowing, a coaching strategy may be to:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&amp;bull;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt; Introduce a brief pause before responding/reacting to check your emotional pulse&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&amp;bull;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="white-space: pre; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;	&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt; Pay particular attention to other people&amp;rsquo;s emotional reactions to you and consider our behavior in light of the feedback.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;Find out more how the ECR can help accelerate development and leadership in your workplace&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
</description><link>http://www.rochemartin.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2973&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=123972&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fwww.rochemartin.com%252f_blog%252fEQ%252fpost%252fEmotional_Intelligence_in_the_Work_Place%252f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.rochemartin.com/_blog/EQ/post/Emotional_Intelligence_in_the_Work_Place/</guid><pubDate>Thu, 23 Jun 2011 13:32:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Evaluating a Sample ECR Report</title><description>Consider this scenario: Jack is a 30 year-old accountant in an international finance company. His manager regards him as being a very competent and diligent person who has a great deal of integrity.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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The company is currently identifying 10 - 15 young managers that are seen to have high potential. Jack's name has been mentioned on a few occasions by come of the other senior managers as someone with a lot of potential.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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By taking the ECR&amp;trade; self-assessment both Jack and his manager will gain a better insight into his EQ strengths. Once he completes the assessment, Jack will receive an 18 page report and one-to-one feedback from his coach. His manager will then be able to assess his suitability for promotion and to outline the various skills and competencies which he will need to develop in order to make his case more favourable.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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Now let's have a look at his profile summary on the ECR&amp;trade;.&lt;br /&gt;
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Evaluating Jack's ECR&amp;trade; Report&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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After examining Jack's individual report, we can gain some insight into his potential as a leader.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What does Jack's profile suggest about his current levels of Emotional Intelligence?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Overall, we can see from the report that his level of EQ is very positive and is in the effective range, and typical of the general population. However, what the report also tells us, is that he has scope to improve his three lowest competencies - relationship skills, adaptability and particularly his empathy.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What strengths does Jack bring to his current role in the organization?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Jack brings great strengths to his current role particularly in the areas of self-confidence and optimism. He has good levels of self-regard and can sustain high levels of motivation. He appears to work well under pressure and maintains a positive outlook in the face of setbacks.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What are the challenges Jack might encounter if he was placed in charge of a large team?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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While Jack is clearly competent in his job, his interpersonal skills are clearly in need of development if he is to get the best out of his team and progress to a more senior position within the organization. If he does not address these areas, he could be in danger of de-motivating his team and not achieving his potential.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What are the specific competencies and skills that Jack needs to develop if he is to step up to leadership positions?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Jack needs to develop his interpersonal skills, particularly empathy, and to adopt a more open and adaptable approach. He needs to take greater interest in his team and spend more one-to-one time with them. He would be advised to ask for other people's opinions more often and genuinely listen to their point of view before rushing in with his own viewpoints.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
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If you are interested in taking an ECR&amp;trade; assessment and receiving a comprehensive ECR development report, visit on &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.rochemartin.com/emotional-intelligence-tests"&gt;&lt;em&gt;EQ products page&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;. Alternatively, if you have in questions about using our assessment within your organization we'd love to hear from you:&amp;nbsp;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="/contact-us.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;contact us&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;John Haime &amp;amp; Martyn Newman&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;How many athletes and coaches really understand the mental part of sports? &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;How many are diligent in trying to improve this critical&amp;nbsp;area of performance?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;We all know the vital importance of the mental and emotional game in athletics, where performance in athletes is always separated by their mental and emotional capabilities. &amp;ldquo;Mentally tough&amp;rdquo; athletes can perform under the high levels of athletic pressure, they are consistent, they make clear decisions and they save their best performances for when it really counts. As the athlete moves to higher levels, the mental and emotional skills become the clear separator between contenders and pretenders.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Coaches and athletes know this so why isn&amp;rsquo;t mental and emotional development more of a priority? &amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Most coaching models have one clear limitation. While coaches are often strong in the technical, physical and strategy parts of coaching, the mental/emotional part of the coaching model is normally the weak link. Simply, the technical, physical and strategy are easily quantified with drills, physical training, chalkboard discussions, video and other tools to help the athlete become bigger, faster and stronger. But, the conversation between coach and athlete to help the athlete become more self-aware, more resilient, more confident or more optimistic is not quite as quantifiable,&amp;nbsp;can be difficult and awkward for the coach &amp;ndash; and often avoided all together.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;The corporate world has leveraged the latest technologies and created tools that quantify behaviors that separate average and outstanding performers. Since the late 90s, organizations have utilized &amp;ldquo;&lt;a href="/Emotional-Intelligence"&gt;Emotional Intelligence&lt;/a&gt;&amp;rdquo; tools to highlight strengths and limitations in leaders and coach these leaders to higher performance. The tools have been simple and easy to use offered in handsome online formats, utilizing powerful, up-to-date technology.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 15pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;If this can be done in the corporate world, is it possible to create a tool that could do the same thing in the athletic world &amp;ndash; specifically for athletes?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;The answer is yes, and the simple, science-based &lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="/emotional-intelligence-sports-inventory"&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Emotional Intelligence Sports Inventory &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;(&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; is the new tool that can be used by coaches to strengthen their coaching models and inspire&amp;nbsp;athletes to improve their performances.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Developed over a five year period by collecting and analysing data from some of the world&amp;rsquo;s most elite athletes, the ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;represents an exciting advance in our understanding of the building blocks that are scientifically linked to elite sports performance. Unlike traditional, personality based &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;psychological inventories that measure general personality traits, the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; was specifically designed and developed to measure the mental and emotional &amp;ldquo;fundamentals&amp;rdquo; of athletes. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Performance data was collected from amateur and professional athletes from around the world in a wide range of sports. It was then scientifically validated by &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;comparing results with a number of other well-established measures of sports performance. The &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; was then administered to professional groups of international elite athletes &amp;ndash; including national sports teams. Results revealed strong relationships between the 10 mental and emotional fundamentals or &amp;ldquo;competencies&amp;rdquo; defined and measured by the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;and outstanding sports performance.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Recent&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; independent studies have provided additional support for the accuracy and reliability of the tool and further international research projects are currently being completed by Universities in Ireland, Wales, Finland, Singapore, China and Korea. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Of course, the real value of the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; is not only in being able to measure mental and emotional skills, but in delivering a blueprint to develop them. By focussing on measuring emotional competencies rather than measuring personality traits, the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; provides coaches with a clear roadmap to assist athletes in developing measurable improvements in their skills.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Feedback from some of the world&amp;rsquo;s top professional coaches has confirmed the immediate benefits that the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; delivers. Comments such as those from top PGA golf coach Steve Bann are typical: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0cm; margin-right: 25.5pt; margin-bottom: 10pt; margin-left: 36pt;"&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&amp;ldquo;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; is an accurate and useful assessment tool &amp;hellip; both Stuart Appleby and Nick Flanagan had immediate tournament success as a result of implementing the recommended strategies after taking this assessment&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;.&amp;rdquo;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Leah Allinger, Assistant Coach of the National Champion, University of British Columbia Women&amp;rsquo;s Volleyball team outlines a benefit of the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; for her high level team: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin-top: 0cm; margin-right: 36.85pt; margin-bottom: 10pt; margin-left: 35.45pt;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&amp;ldquo;the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;really created awareness for our players of what they might like to work on and helped them understand how important mental and emotional preparation is to competing and winning.&amp;rdquo;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Both individual athletes and teams are using the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; and getting to the next level in their mental and emotional athletic development.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;The &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; is a brief, simple-to-use measure that can be completed online in only 20 minutes. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;Along with scores on the ten mental and emotional skills that support elite performance, the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; Sports Report is packed with eighteen pages of individualized coaching tips and tactics for developing sustained performance. The package also includes a developmental &amp;ldquo;Action Plan&amp;rdquo; helping coach and athlete apply the results to their everyday performance. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;The &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;represents an innovation in the field of sports psychology and early indications are that developing mental toughness for sustained sports performance just got a whole lot easier!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;For information about the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;ESi&amp;trade;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt; see &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="/emotional-intelligence-sports-inventory"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;www.rochemartin.com/emotional-intelligence-sports-inventory&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;Imagine if more people inside the organization could learn to think, act and communicate like those who inspire us?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;Leadership abilities, such as those described by emotional intelligence (EQ), explain &lt;em&gt;what&lt;/em&gt; leaders do, but not &lt;em&gt;why &lt;/em&gt;they perform. Furthermore, knowing &lt;em&gt;what &lt;/em&gt;to do is all very well, but the big question is &lt;em&gt;how&lt;/em&gt; to do it.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;/span&gt;According to more than 20 years of research in psychology, there are at least seven common factors that contribute to creating positive behavior change. &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;1. Engagement&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/strong&gt;Being clear about your aspirations and dreams, and being able to articulate the values that shape your beliefs, goes to the very heart of great leadership.&amp;nbsp;&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;Your job as a leader is to tell and re-tell the story of why you do what you do, and what your business is capable of achieving.&amp;nbsp;Most importantly, it is about enabling people to understand the value of their contribution to the story.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;2. Benchmarking: Self-Discovery &amp;amp; Self-Directed Change&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;Even when people are motivated to develop their EQ and leadership skills, they can often remain unclear about how to do so &amp;ndash; until they become aware of how they measure up. There are many ways of gaining feedback on performance, but by far the most credible and compelling way is to benchmark emotional and social competencies and provide feedback using high-quality psychometric assessment tools.&lt;/span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;3. Create Manageable, Measurable Goals &amp;amp; Share Them&amp;nbsp;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;Performance in training programs improves dramatically when participants set explicit goals for change. In fact, the motivating power of such goals is greatly enhanced when they are declared publicly and put in writing.&lt;/span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;Even Benjamin Franklin insisted that setting daily and weekly goals was indispensable to becoming a virtuous person!&lt;/span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;4. Model The Skills&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;Provide people with opportunities to observe the skills they want to acquire. Modeling is a more effective learning method than simply being told about the skills because it requires greater attention and accelerates learning.&lt;/span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;5. Practice New Skills &amp;amp; Provide Feedback&lt;/strong&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;A common mistake in EQ training is to assume that leaders can acquire these behaviors quickly by attending motivational seminars. Although these activities can certainly inspire the desire to change, real behavioral change requires practice and repetition over an extended period.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt; color: black;"&gt;Organizational psychologists have long known that consistent constructive feedback is the most effective way to motivate people and provide direction.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;6. Provide Follow-Up Support &amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/strong&gt;Research has shown that the value of learning is maintained, if not greatly enhanced, when people receive targeted coaching support from a reinforcing reference group or an individual. In other words, providing coaching and mentoring to people on the job contributes greatly to positive change.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;7. Evaluate Change&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/strong&gt;Documenting individual progress by evaluating changes in both understanding and behavior reinforces learning, charts the way forward and demonstrates return on investment. Nothing succeeds like success.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;The seven elements described here represent the &lt;em&gt;why &lt;/em&gt;of building sustainable leadership skills and are the core features of the revolutionary online leadership development tool - &lt;a href="/Online-EQ-Training"&gt;SmartCoach&amp;trade;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: cambria; font-size: 9pt;"&gt;.&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="/Online-EQ-Training"&gt;Find out how SmartCoach can help you build an inspiring leadership culture today.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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